So why can't we just take it day by day? Why is it so difficult to simply let things happen as they do?
You meet someone and immediately hit it off. When you're together, it seems as though everything will just move along perfectly and things will fall into place. This still could happen... Yet, after a perfect weekend, then a day of nothing, and guys telling you that you should've already heard from him again (which really is soo varying with men), you begin to doubt. If I've been thinking of him, hasn't he thought of me? And if so, and I hope he has been... then why wouldn't I hear from him?
Then you have to think about the other side... yes, you know you want to hear from him and that, obviously, you won't think he's smothering you if he texts you the next day. But does he know that? Maybe not. Maybe, the last girl he talked to was a little crazy-pants and she told him that he was smothering her after he was just being a super sweet guy and following up?
All of these thoughts and questions can make a person crazy. Yes, I want to give him the chase... but I HATE the games. I think it's dumb. But then again, would I really want someone to be constantly blowing up my phone?? Really?? No. It would be fun for a few days to think "Wow! This guy is really interested..." But since that's not what guys normally do, it would honestly seem a bit weird. Even I'll admit that. :/
So there you have it... On one hand, you really want this guy to tell you that he's already interested and that he really wants to see where it could go, etc... But on the other hand, you're thinking about how you've been alone for so long and you do really want someone new (especially THIS someone new), but then again, it's going to be an adjustment. A big adjustment, really.
Yet, it did feel quite natural to have his arm around me during the movie. And it didn't quite feel normal, since it's been QUITE a little while since I've really had a guy around me much, but it felt lovely to be strolling around the museum hand in hand. It's kinda nice to feel like you're "with" someone. I can't really remember what that feels like. Gosh, isn't that sad? But, I guess necessary for some people. I certainly needed the past years to really grow into who I am now. And I'm proud of that, but for Heaven's sake! I didn't realize it was THIS difficult for people to just know that they enjoy one another's company and make it work. One would think that you just meet, have a great time together, and decide Hey! That was fun! We should do this all the time! But no... not always the case. Life doesn't get to happen quite so easily, unfortunately. At least not all of the time.
But then there's the issue of history. You really can't get mad at a person when you think they're going to act a certain way, but then they end up TOTALLY not doing what you hoped they would... and ultimately, at least in my experience, they vanish. And then you see them a year or two later all in love and living with some new girl and her dog. Of course.
I have finally had to learn, it's not my fault nor is it their fault. When they met me, I'm sure they really thought they were ready for love. And maybe, in some ways, they were. But not enough. IT's all about timing, they say. Well, I think that really is what it boils down to. Maybe none of us really have any control at all. Maybe it's just a matter of everything being aligned the way it's supposed to be and then, boom! wheover you meet next will turn out to be "The One" because you were where you were supposed to be in life and so were they. Does this actually make me feel better? Honestly, I don't know. Because I don't know if I really am "There." I think I am... but then again, don't you always think you're ready? And it's not really until you're in it (and typically destroying someone else in the process) that you finally realize maybe you weren't ready for it after all. But by then it's too late. And when does anyone ever really have the guts to say "Hey, I'm sorry... I really wanted to be your everything, but I've just realized that I'm not brave enough yet. I'm still afraid."
And y'know the crazy thing about it? I would honestly be okay with someone straight up telling me those words... of course, I'd be a lot more okay with it if they came BEFORE they broke whatever was left of my heart. However, again... often, this is not their fault. I don't know of anyone who goes into a relationship with the intentions of breaking this guy into remnants of nothing by the time they're through with him... Do you? And if you do, you should try to your hardest to stay the heck away from them!
Of course not. When you meet that beautiful man standing across from you in the restaurant, all you think of is "Hmmm... he has beautiful skin. I bet our children would be beautiful." Haha... Admit it. You know that at some point or another you've seen someone (whether you even spoke to them or not) who you simply envisioned your un-told future with in about 5 seconds. It was lovely, wasn't it?
I'll admit it. This guy that I've known for all of about 2 minutes... definitely thought about how we would be able to travel the world together and how I'm sure his family would appreciate that I at least kinda look like them. All sorts of ridiculous things. And all of this came from one movie and one day at the museum. Yup. Welcome to Girl World. I can't lie... even I get exhausted from it some days. There are sooo many times that I just WISH I could do what guys do and just TURN OFF the part of my brain that thinks about men. Really, I do. Just switch it off! That way, whenever I DO get a message or whatever from said man (who is very inconveniently filling my brain and taking very valuable thoughts away from much more vital issues on a Tuesday), I can simply look at my phone and say "Oh how nice! I have a text from the man." :) Done. The end. How lovely would that be??
But no. What do I get to deal with instead? The constant "Don't look at your phone" thoughts... because it's RIGHT in front of your face and you know not a SOUL has messaged you in the past 5 mins since you LAST checked it... in hopes that you just didn't notice that it said his name. I mean... really?!
And THEN!!! What's even MORE frustrating is if/when he finally DOES text you... you're so excited, but then again don't want to seem too eager to write him right back, so then you have to time yourself before you'll let yourself respond since he's made you wait 24 hours (or more)... Why should HE get the instant gratification?? Good Lord. This is exhausting. What happened to "I like you. Do you like me... Check 'Yes' or 'No.'" Done. Simple as that. Of course, there's always that one who just circles "or." Bitch. Was that really necessary?? The poor kid's already putting himself out there, just hoping to catch your attention. So cruel.
I guess it all just comes full circle, though. If you think about it... in school, the silly boys are always chasing after the girls in recess or down the halls. Taunting, teasing... flirting. Girls get the pick of the litter. Then comes the "Grown Up" World... my how the tables turn... Now, the "smelly little boys" are tall, beautiful men. And they are not chasing. More like setting traps and simply watching as you fall right into them. I really think it is quite like a sport to so many of them. I do. We women get all flustered and stressed out over whether or not he'll call me back or "did that text sound like my schedule is too available?" Really??? Whatever happened to "I'll pick you up at 8." "Great! I'll see you then!" Done.
*Sigh* Let's just hope the next time I'm on here, I'm telling you that it all worked out and we had the most amazing 4th of July together. I did say that I would have someone by the 4th... I really did... Let's hope this man doesn't turn me into a liar. ;)
You meet someone and immediately hit it off. When you're together, it seems as though everything will just move along perfectly and things will fall into place. This still could happen... Yet, after a perfect weekend, then a day of nothing, and guys telling you that you should've already heard from him again (which really is soo varying with men), you begin to doubt. If I've been thinking of him, hasn't he thought of me? And if so, and I hope he has been... then why wouldn't I hear from him?
Then you have to think about the other side... yes, you know you want to hear from him and that, obviously, you won't think he's smothering you if he texts you the next day. But does he know that? Maybe not. Maybe, the last girl he talked to was a little crazy-pants and she told him that he was smothering her after he was just being a super sweet guy and following up?
All of these thoughts and questions can make a person crazy. Yes, I want to give him the chase... but I HATE the games. I think it's dumb. But then again, would I really want someone to be constantly blowing up my phone?? Really?? No. It would be fun for a few days to think "Wow! This guy is really interested..." But since that's not what guys normally do, it would honestly seem a bit weird. Even I'll admit that. :/
So there you have it... On one hand, you really want this guy to tell you that he's already interested and that he really wants to see where it could go, etc... But on the other hand, you're thinking about how you've been alone for so long and you do really want someone new (especially THIS someone new), but then again, it's going to be an adjustment. A big adjustment, really.
Yet, it did feel quite natural to have his arm around me during the movie. And it didn't quite feel normal, since it's been QUITE a little while since I've really had a guy around me much, but it felt lovely to be strolling around the museum hand in hand. It's kinda nice to feel like you're "with" someone. I can't really remember what that feels like. Gosh, isn't that sad? But, I guess necessary for some people. I certainly needed the past years to really grow into who I am now. And I'm proud of that, but for Heaven's sake! I didn't realize it was THIS difficult for people to just know that they enjoy one another's company and make it work. One would think that you just meet, have a great time together, and decide Hey! That was fun! We should do this all the time! But no... not always the case. Life doesn't get to happen quite so easily, unfortunately. At least not all of the time.
But then there's the issue of history. You really can't get mad at a person when you think they're going to act a certain way, but then they end up TOTALLY not doing what you hoped they would... and ultimately, at least in my experience, they vanish. And then you see them a year or two later all in love and living with some new girl and her dog. Of course.
I have finally had to learn, it's not my fault nor is it their fault. When they met me, I'm sure they really thought they were ready for love. And maybe, in some ways, they were. But not enough. IT's all about timing, they say. Well, I think that really is what it boils down to. Maybe none of us really have any control at all. Maybe it's just a matter of everything being aligned the way it's supposed to be and then, boom! wheover you meet next will turn out to be "The One" because you were where you were supposed to be in life and so were they. Does this actually make me feel better? Honestly, I don't know. Because I don't know if I really am "There." I think I am... but then again, don't you always think you're ready? And it's not really until you're in it (and typically destroying someone else in the process) that you finally realize maybe you weren't ready for it after all. But by then it's too late. And when does anyone ever really have the guts to say "Hey, I'm sorry... I really wanted to be your everything, but I've just realized that I'm not brave enough yet. I'm still afraid."
And y'know the crazy thing about it? I would honestly be okay with someone straight up telling me those words... of course, I'd be a lot more okay with it if they came BEFORE they broke whatever was left of my heart. However, again... often, this is not their fault. I don't know of anyone who goes into a relationship with the intentions of breaking this guy into remnants of nothing by the time they're through with him... Do you? And if you do, you should try to your hardest to stay the heck away from them!
Of course not. When you meet that beautiful man standing across from you in the restaurant, all you think of is "Hmmm... he has beautiful skin. I bet our children would be beautiful." Haha... Admit it. You know that at some point or another you've seen someone (whether you even spoke to them or not) who you simply envisioned your un-told future with in about 5 seconds. It was lovely, wasn't it?
I'll admit it. This guy that I've known for all of about 2 minutes... definitely thought about how we would be able to travel the world together and how I'm sure his family would appreciate that I at least kinda look like them. All sorts of ridiculous things. And all of this came from one movie and one day at the museum. Yup. Welcome to Girl World. I can't lie... even I get exhausted from it some days. There are sooo many times that I just WISH I could do what guys do and just TURN OFF the part of my brain that thinks about men. Really, I do. Just switch it off! That way, whenever I DO get a message or whatever from said man (who is very inconveniently filling my brain and taking very valuable thoughts away from much more vital issues on a Tuesday), I can simply look at my phone and say "Oh how nice! I have a text from the man." :) Done. The end. How lovely would that be??
But no. What do I get to deal with instead? The constant "Don't look at your phone" thoughts... because it's RIGHT in front of your face and you know not a SOUL has messaged you in the past 5 mins since you LAST checked it... in hopes that you just didn't notice that it said his name. I mean... really?!
And THEN!!! What's even MORE frustrating is if/when he finally DOES text you... you're so excited, but then again don't want to seem too eager to write him right back, so then you have to time yourself before you'll let yourself respond since he's made you wait 24 hours (or more)... Why should HE get the instant gratification?? Good Lord. This is exhausting. What happened to "I like you. Do you like me... Check 'Yes' or 'No.'" Done. Simple as that. Of course, there's always that one who just circles "or." Bitch. Was that really necessary?? The poor kid's already putting himself out there, just hoping to catch your attention. So cruel.
I guess it all just comes full circle, though. If you think about it... in school, the silly boys are always chasing after the girls in recess or down the halls. Taunting, teasing... flirting. Girls get the pick of the litter. Then comes the "Grown Up" World... my how the tables turn... Now, the "smelly little boys" are tall, beautiful men. And they are not chasing. More like setting traps and simply watching as you fall right into them. I really think it is quite like a sport to so many of them. I do. We women get all flustered and stressed out over whether or not he'll call me back or "did that text sound like my schedule is too available?" Really??? Whatever happened to "I'll pick you up at 8." "Great! I'll see you then!" Done.
*Sigh* Let's just hope the next time I'm on here, I'm telling you that it all worked out and we had the most amazing 4th of July together. I did say that I would have someone by the 4th... I really did... Let's hope this man doesn't turn me into a liar. ;)
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